If he doesn’t buy you flowers often, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. If she doesn’t submit to your every desire, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you.
Look a bit deeper:
If he is working hard to provide for you and your children, its out of love. If he is making life comfortable for you, its out of love. If he is worried about your Imaan, you can’t ask for a better form of love.
If she is taking care of the house, cooking nice meals and taking care of the children, its all done out of love. If she is worried about your Imaan, you can’t ask for a better form of love.
Learn the difference languages of love so you can see the variety of ways your spouse expresses their love for you daily.